By Shel Franco
Breastfeeding magic isn’t “a given,” but at the same time, it’s not as elusive as you think. You might find it hard to believe, but breastfeeding magic is more about a state of mind than it is about having the techniques “down pat.” These five steps will help you prepare to embrace the magic of breastfeeding.
1. Make breastfeeding a priority.
It’s a lot harder to experience the magic if you are always rushing through a feeding or passing off Baby so you can clean the house or run some errands. If something other than breastfeeding becomes your priority, you will find yourself spending nursing sessions trying to figure out ways to get Baby to take a bottle or nurse quicker or accept a pacifier.
When you find your thoughts wandering to all the things you could be doing other than breastfeeding, try to practice mindfulness. Feel Baby in your arms, how her head fits perfectly in the crook. Is her hair damp with sweat where she cuddles against you? And her feet, where are her precious feet? Are they pushed into the newfound softness of your belly? Become mindful of every swallow. What does nursing sound like? Listen. What does nursing smell like? Soon, instead of frustration, these sessions will become a time for meditation on motherhood at its finest.
2. Don’t just breastfeed – nurse.
A lot more goes into breastfeeding than simply filling your little one’s tummy. Breastfeeding is about nourishing the body, the mind and the soul. No other means of feeding an infant even comes close to doing all three. Nursing is more than feeding; it is a way of mothering, too. Moms who breastfeed under the influence of “magic” put Baby to breast for absolutely everything.
3. Expect to nurse – a lot.
Throw out that clock. Babies don’t nurse on a schedule. If you expect your baby to suckle for 20 minutes on each breast, every three hours, think again. Some newborns will want to nurse every 15 minutes for only five minutes on one breast. Nursing is not a science, and no one can tell you exactly how long and how much your baby will nurse.
The thing is, you can’t really over breastfeed, but you can under breastfeed. Put Baby to Breast each time he stirs. If he doesn’t want to, he won’t stay latched. Karen Zeretzke, MEd, IBCLC, RLC, likes to say, “What goes in on one end comes out on the other.” Monitoring wet and messy diapers and witnessing a steady increase in Baby’s weight is a much better indicator of breastfeeding success than your kitchen clock.
4. Get support.
If you know a breastfeeding mom who has experienced the magic, you are in luck. Spend lots of time with her before and after Baby’s birth. If not, get involved with La Leche League International (1-800-LALECHE) before Baby arrives. Besides learning more about the mechanics of breastfeeding, at La Leche League meetings you will be surrounded by women who are living the 5 Steps to Breastfeeding Magic.
5. Enjoy yourself.
It’s OK. You are allowed to enjoy breastfeeding. Cracked nipples and thoughts of feeling “tied-down” do not plague all women. There is absolutely nothing wrong with spending the weekend curled up in bed alongside your precious newborn, drinking deeply from the sweet smell of Baby as those luscious mothering hormones wash over you to calm and comfort your soul.
